Freaking Out...

[~dani~]

Freaking Out...

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Hey,

Just need to express my fears i guess. I have a 16month old who is just amazing, and we have been TTC for number 2. I fell pregnant about 4 months ago, but lost that baby. I just found out about 2 weeks ago that i am pregnant again. I would love to be excited, but i am so nervous. I just had a Dr's appt to get referrals for a scan and blood test, which will help put me out of my uncertain misery. But the dr asked if i had done a test, and when i said i had, when i was 3 days late and the line was pale pink, he got me worried. i jsut did another one (i am approx 6 weeks along now), the line is still really pale.

I am just freaking out...i want to be excited about this, but i am so worried. i am trying to keep my emotions under control, but i am scared i am going to lose this one too... we havent told anyone about this preg, so i have no one to talk to. i dont think i can go through this again. i ended the pregnany naturally last time (no curette) and it was painful, tiring and really affected me physically and emotionally. i just want this little one to be happy and healthy and to continue kicking along. I am still having 'growing pains', which i didnt have last time along with other preg symptom's.

Has anyone else experienced the 'pale line phenomenon'???

[morgannrose]

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It is my understanding that pregnancy tests are far more likely to show up with a false negative than they are with a false positive. A line is a line in my opinion no matter how faint which means you are most likely pregnant (i just deleted definitely cos i am not a doc). Plus you got a faint line twice which is pretty unlikely. Plus you feel pregnant. Plus you are TTC.

I have not lost a baby myself so I cant imagine what you must be going through but when I was pregnant with my DD (now 16 months) we were given quite a scare when our ob started to say she thought we had lost the baby cos she could not pick up a heart beat. We went through all sorts off tests and much worry/stress to eventually find out the pregnancy was simply less advanced than we had thought. Baby was fine just very small and as a result her heart beat was hard to pick up with our ob's basic device. If I could have my time over I would steer well clear of the medical world until my pregnancy was well established.

You mentioned a scan, have you thought about putting it off for a while? If it was me I would be taking long walks on the beach and connecting with the bub, letting them know how excited I was. Just doing wholesome, spiritual, beautiful things (not always easy with a 16 month old I know). I feel that any tests, stress, plane flights etc. that can be avoided should be. Having said that I know how important the scan was to us after our scare so I guess it could be that it would put your mind at ease and make it easier for you to enjoy the journey.

My point is don't let any doc scare or worry you, I know its easier said than done but IMO they do not know everything and they do not always get it right. They can also say ridiculous things to pregnant women not realising what effect a simple statement can have on someone who is pregnant and even more prone to worry.

I am sorry I could not be any help but I will be thinking of you and sending love - aren't you brave, two little munchkins to keep you busy! 16 months is a beautiful age though - Holly is so lovely at the moment and things are so easy it is making me think of another......

[ENR]

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Sometimes pregnancy tests can show a dark line one day and a fainter line the next day. It is usually recommended not to do any more tests after you get the original positive for this reason.

A blood test will be more accurate for testing. A continuous pale line can be a sign of an ectopic pregnancy but that isn't always the case.

If you had a very pale line at 3 days late it would most likely be the case that your baby implanted later than 'average'. Sometimes implantation isn't even until a woman is officially late so they would receive their first positive test until 5+1 weeks pregnant (minimum) and sometimes not even until 6 weeks pregnant.

Go easy on yourself and I hope everything turns out Ok for you. Good luck. x

[Nyree]

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I lost my first at 9 weeks. I'd been bleeding for 2 weeks & even a scan the day before he passed showed a strong heartbeat. When I fell preg with DD several months later, it was not until about 6 weeks that I actually got a +ve result. I remember being terrified in those first few weeks that something would go wrong again, but we'll be celebrating her 5th birthday in a couple of months

I do understand that fear very well, though.

What they'd usually do in this case is 2 blood tests a week or so apart to see how much the HCG levels have increased.

[mischiefs_mum]

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I am sorry you lost your baby. I had fears with my first preg. I have not lost a baby so can not know what that must feel like. Just want to let you know you are not alone. I hope everything goes well for you. There are a few of us that are preg at the moment. There is a thread for spring babies. We would love to have you join us there. Might be nice to chat with other mum's that are around the same no of weeks as you. I am 7weeks wishing you peace and positive vibes XoxoR

[~dani~]

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thank you so much for all your lovely comments and support. i definately should NOT have done that preg test today- just made all my fears come to the surface. I have been very positive and just taking each day as a blessing. I know that i have no control over my body, but i have been listening very carefully to it, and resting when i can, eating great, and really trying to bond with my little newy!

i have a scan and test tomorrow, so have my fingers crossed for that. i know what will be will be, but still ; )

Thanks again, and if all is good, i will def join the spring babies thread!!!

xXx

[bubly]

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Dani, I'm sorry for the loss of your little bub, and sending lots of sticky vibes to this new blessing.

When I did a preg test for DS2, the line was so faint I almost missed it. Infact, it was DH that said 'look again, there's a line there...' I always thought with those tests a line was a line no matter how light or dark.

I haven't lost a bub, so I can't put myself in your shoes at the moment, but can imagine it must be difficult. Big hugs and lots of love to you

xxxx

[~dani~]

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Just wanted to let you know...i got back from a scan and blood test today.. and....
A L L G O O D ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !! ! !! !
YAY!!!

I saw a little heart beat and everything, and my little one is exactly the right size and everything...

so miracles happen! i spent the afternoon trying to convince 'her' to stay put, so hopefully it all works out in the end

so totally excited and relieved...so thanks again everyone

[Ama]

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Hey dani,
It's lovely to hear you're having a good day
I also lost my first pregnancy at 9 weeks and found it hard to let go of the fear in my second pregnancy.
Wishing you lots of happiness.

[bubly]

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Great news Dani!
xx