Grandma?

Dorasmum · #1 (**permalink**) 13-05-2008, 09:44 PM

Oh dear, DD1 just announced she is going to be a mum when she is 13.....

Of course she has no concept really yet of ages and time etc. We were talking about something yesterday and it came up that I would one day be an older lady like her grandma. She got quite upset saying she didn't want me to get old because she wanted me to look after her. I tried to explain that she would be a grown up and be able to look after herself but she was very distraught.

Also got put out recently that she wasn't at our wedding..said well where was I? I guess she can't imagine not ever being here.

My Mum remembers as a child not finding out till she was maybe 7 or 8 that her Grandma was her Mum's Mum. Something they just assumed she knew, no one ever actually explained it to her. To her Grandma was just.....Grandma

Kids can make such funny and sometimes concerning assumptions about life and worry about things that we would never think of. And they don't always tell us. I'm finding that now as DD1 gets older. I got out of her the other day something she was stewing about to do with starting school. She has a little habit of pinching the seam of her shirt/jumper near her underarm. She's done it since she was about 2. She is worried the other kids don't do it so she will be different. I had to explain that it's not very noticable and the kids probably had a teddy at home that they had for the same comfort purpose but they couldn't take it to school with them. So she was the lucky one.

Any stories?

Marmee · #2 (**permalink**) 13-05-2008, 10:15 PM

On the marriage front, our DS was initially marrying me....then it moved to he was going to marry someone else....but he was very concerned "can I still live with you and Daddy?" "Of course!"

Then it moved to "I'm going to live with Marc (his best friend at the time) when I'm older"

So - we'll wait and see

emd · #3 (**permalink**) 13-05-2008, 11:13 PM

Sophia's already decided she's marrying Jay from Playschool - she has excellent taste

It think the one that most worried me was when Sophia was concerned about mummy or daddy (but usually mummy) dying. My third pregnancy was considered high risk, and there were often comments or conversations with extended family about the potential risks to my health. Even though Sophia turned 3 during the pregnancy, and I tried to prevent those discussions within her hearing, she picked up a lot.

With Jools, the biggest issue is separation from her sister. When Sophia started pre-school, there would be tears in the car on school mornings (sometimes from both girls!) when Jools realised she couldn't go to school with Sophia (or that Sophia couldn't go to childcare or Paint & Play with Jools). They're OK about it now, but if I vary the going-to-school routine there will be tears again. She's always asking who's going where. And if we're home alone, she literally follows me around the house asking "where's Fia? where's daddy? where's Fia? where's daddy?" Sweet, but I do feel inadequate! They share a bedroom and have trouble going to sleep without the other one in the room at night.

Meridith · #4 (**permalink**) 13-05-2008, 11:14 PM

Oh I looooooooove "when I grow up". It is delightful!

DD has her first best friend and they are kindred spirits. Recent conversation was about growing up (we were beading).

DD: I can't wait til I'm a grown up, T
T: I can't wait til I'm a grown up either
Me: Yeah? What happens when you're grown ups?
T: Well when I'm a grown up I'm going to be a mummy
DD: And when I'm a grown up I'm going to be a daddy
Me: Oh, you're going to be a daddy?
DD: Yes, I'm going to be a daddy. Just like my daddy.

Marmee · #5 (**permalink**) 14-05-2008, 10:34 AM

Ohhhh - just like my daddy

That is toooo sweet ((heart melts))

**Nyree** · #6 (**permalink**) 14-05-2008, 02:13 PM

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To her Grandma was just.....Grandma

We have this, too. I guess 3 is a bit young to understand. When I tell her that Nanna is my Mummy & that Bump is my Daddy, I get a stern, "NO! Nanna's not Mummy, she's Nanna!" or "You not Bump" (meaning I'm not related to my Dad).

She's recently worked out that people have "other names".....Mummy is Nyree, Daddy is Danilo, etc. It's tough when she doesn't believe you that there is only one name - as in

B "What's Sabre's name (the cat)?"
Me "Her name is Sabre"
B "Noooo...what's Sabre's name"
Me "Sabre's name is Sabre"
B "Nooooo" etc.....

Also, I remember MADLY wanting to be a mother from about 13 years old.

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Sophia's already decided she's marrying Jay from Playschool - she has excellent taste

She does indeed!