hitting and biting

[peanut2007]

hitting and biting

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ok, well peanut is normally the kindest, gentlest, sweetest kid ever, he runs up to me a million times a day for cuddles and kisses and he gives all his little play mates the same attention usually.
He shares everything and never fights over toys.
Problem is hes now turning into such a toad.
Hes so frustrated with something at the moment and i cant for the life of me work out what it is.
Hes hitting and biting everyone including me and his cousins for no reason, just walks up to the hits them and says NO!
Ive never hit him or the other children so i dont know where this is coming from.
Hes even hitting his toys and throws them all around the room for no apparent reason.
Can anyone give me any insight on this hes not my little boy at the moment.

Thanks
Shay

[Purly]

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Here is a page from Dr Sears that might help.

[peanut2007]

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thanks Lisa thats interesting reading, Ive been trying to work out what his issues are at the moment and im coming up blank, the behaviour seems to appear out of nowhere and at random times, its so heartbreaking to see him so confused? angry? upset? and i cant work out why.
I realise some of this is his age and his inability to communicate his wants and needs.
hopefully i can get to the bottom of it sooner rather than later.

Thanks again
Shay

[Purly]

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Do you think it might be the travel to NZ for your wedding just knocking him off kilter a bit? Maybe his two year old molars are on their way through?

Sometimes frustrated behaviour like his came through at times just before big developmental leaps that my children had.

[peanut2007]

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thanks lisa,
i dont think hes teething at the moment and im not sure about the travel although it could be.
the behaviour started about the same time that we went home, he got away with blue murder back there with his grandparents so it could just be him pushing the limits and finding how far he can go??????
I dont know, im worried about the hitting that hes doing, hes never been exposed to it not even the other 3 kids.
Im just hoping we can get to the bottom of this and work through it with him

Thanks again
Shay

[becnleo]

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My 16 month old has started doing this a bit too and as you said, quite randomly at times. Just the other day at the park, a little girl was following us around and trying to play with DS and he started pushing her! I was so shocked as he too is usually sooo sweet and lovely and he is usually the one giving cuddles to all the kids in the park. Maybe it's just a stage?? I am also not sure how to handle it as how do you reason with a 16 month old?

I will be watching this post for some advice on how to handle this tricky situation.

[twinmumma]

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i am so glad to hear that other mums are experiencing this, even though its so awful, my 18mnth twin boys are doing the same, especially one of them. they went through a stage of doing it to each other but that has now stopped, instead they do it randomly to other kids at playgroup. i thought maybe coz there is 2 of them they have competed and learnt to fight which they then take to their interactions with others, but if single children are also doing it maybe it is a developmental stage some children go through? i have no idea how to handle it either, especially as i cant predict when they will strike.

i will also be watching this post to see if anyone has advice! maybe we just have to wait and let it burn out by itself?

[suzee]

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Is there any chance that it could be diet related? My preschooler was becoming a terrible biter, and was chomping badly into her little sister nearly every day. I had started seeking help for her and was being referred thru to early intervention, when by chance I took her off vegemite and promite, and all her aggressive behaviour stopped overnight. She had been biting, strangling, attacking, etc etc and had all sorts of behavioural issues, and turns out it was all food related. She is sensitive to a hold load of things, but for some reasons it seems that it was vegemite and promite that brought on the aggression. She had been eating them for years, but the aggression only seemed to come in after an interstate move, so maybe the change along with the food reactions got too much for her.

Anyway, I'd suggest taking artificial additives out of the diet for a couple of weeks, including the yeast extracts and hydrolised vegetable protein, and seeing if it makes any difference. It changed my life doing this, I did have a miserable, unhappy, aggressive little girl, who is (mostly!) happy and delightful now.

[rubes]

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that article is great marguerite

[mine-mmy]

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i started reading the feelings books by Trace Moroney to DD when she was about 14 months old. she was obviosuly off kilter about something, but i couldnt work out what. we read when im feeling angry, scared, sad and lonely sooooooooooooo many times. i think that angry and scared were the favourites for a long time. but i really think that they did help her to identify what she was feeling and work with it.
we still read all of them alot and im sure they will get even more of a work out as DD2 gets older too!