Raising kids

[Linna76]

I have 3 demanding kids.3 boys.Biting,scratching,yelling....you know it.I read this book on on the web the other day where the doctor said that you have to be strict with your kids about when they go to bed,that they sleep in there on beds,eatingmanners,no yelling,no screaming......everything.I know that everything this doctor said are right and made sense,but,,,,i can`t do it!It is so tough.Help me.Am i a bad mother?Or am i just overworked?

[KristinC]

You're not a bad mother maybe you just need more tools to help with ideas for managing their behaviour. There can be so so many different reasons for these kinds of behaviours. Maybe you can describe your issues, kids ages etc in a bit more detail so we can get a bit of an idea about what might help you.
Personally I think the strict parenting approach is flawed. You might be able to "make" your children behave, but really what you want to do is teach them to think and have compassion so that they can regulate their own behaviour. They learn kindness and compassion from being treated with kindness and compassion. If they have their needs met they will also be less likely to act out in certain ways. Feel free to tell us all about it!