'Mummy Do it'-Need help with this!!

AmyS · #1 (**permalink**) 18-04-2007, 08:23 PM

I know there was an article in the last NP magazine about this, but wer are really struggling. As of about 4 weeks ago EVERYTHING is 'Mummy do it.'. My poor husband can't even open doors, turn on lights etc when I'm there. She had a complete melt down tonight because I had my hands full and he opened a gate instead of me. Admittedly she was extremely overtired, but even when she's not it's bad. And I also CANNOT physically do everything. Reasoning works with her....sometimes. I don't want to do things just because she says I should. But it's obviously important to her. I've tried asking her why she doesn't want anyone else to do it and she just says 'Mummy do it!'

I know plenty of parents go through this...does anyone have advice?
It's driving me nuts!

Oh, She's just over 2/12

sahras mum · #2 (**permalink**) 18-04-2007, 09:20 PM

Oh my goodness, I would benefit from this also! Had to walk a 2 kms bushwalk uphill with DD as mummy 'had' to do it! Poor DH! My back was breaking and if I put her down and tried to pass on to DH, she would throw herself out of his arms convulsing in fury. I guess its just a stage? DD is just used to being in arms with me more...I enjoy it 99% of the time but DH does feel left out.

**monique** · #3 (**permalink**) 19-04-2007, 12:05 AM

we have been there! only last year infact... time it will pass we just let it be and each time it happened we said but daddy would love to help you and after a while it was okay al though we still cant make her food but she will let him help with going to the toilet now

and they cang go on the occational walk together. I just kept reminding myself that they only small and before we know it they will be wanting to do it all themselves and we wont be able to help at all...

hee is the link to our story I hope its of some help

http://www.forums.naturalparenting.c...ad.php?t=20453

AmyS · #4 (**permalink**) 19-04-2007, 08:01 AM

Thank you. Jen, I could have written the bush walk post myself!
It is tiring for me, but it's more that DH thinks she is hgetting 'spoiled' which she isn't. I know it's only a phase and I accept it, but need him to do so also.... And it would be nice for him to be able to do things!

~*Nile*~ · #5 (**permalink**) 19-04-2007, 09:02 AM

For us, at least, it comes in cycles. For a couple of years it was Mummy do it too, but in the last few months it's gone to Daddy do it. She screams if DH sleeps in (like this morning) asking 50 times, wheres Daddy, I want Daddy, I love Daddy.

It will pass. Try to enjoy it (I know it can become frustrating sometimes) as it won't last forever. I admit I'm a little jealous and sad DD is now favouring DH as we've always been so close, but I know (and hope

) she'll swing back.

Angelsmum · #6 (**permalink**) 19-04-2007, 11:51 AM

Hailey (hailstorms DD) has been doing this with Me lately when I am at their place or she is here. "Aunty do it". I gotta pour her drinks, take her toilet, put her pj's on, even put her to sleep. I think its a phase they go through...... I feel like her new best friend,. Its kinda nice !!

Hailstorm · #7 (**permalink**) 19-04-2007, 12:04 PM

Yup she's right Hailey seems to pick someone and thats it they HAVE to do everything a few days ago it was our friend Sonia and the other day it was my friend Meagan. It used to be Mummy do it to the point where noone could go near her I'll never forget the night we were ar Rachelle's house and I said c'mon Hails let's go to sleep and she said No Daddy do it. My heart broke a little. I think she'll get over it soon
Sorry no real advice here but just letting you know that you're not alone