how do you feel

**monique** · #1 (**permalink**) 09-02-2007, 11:49 AM

when a someone disciplines your child more hasrshly than there own?

I have a friend who is into gentle guidance YAY but it really gets up my nose when her little girl is doing something to willow thats not nice then when willow retaliates she comes down on her like a tonne of bricks. She is like dont ***** (childs name...) dont do that... no dont do that *****... stop.
"Then willow gets sick of whats happening and reacts and she is like WILLOW DONT DO THAT IT WILL HURT ***** or SOMETHING ALONG THOSE LINES and somehow the table gets turned and its willow who is in trouble

So what would you do?

mummabare · #2 (**permalink**) 09-02-2007, 12:26 PM

umm personally if it was Dillon...I would try and intervene before it gets to the point where he retaliates. And if that is not a possibility I would remove Dillon from the play and possibly go home earlier when it happens...

But Im a non - confrontation sort of person...

Im sure someone else will give you some great advice

kelli · #3 (**permalink**) 09-02-2007, 12:34 PM

I would step in before her and move willow and perhaps show her how you would do it by using words on her daughter. Oh and maybe next time it happens and she is about to do something you could say "don't worry, I'll get them this time" and then you deal with it

Lavender · #4 (**permalink**) 09-02-2007, 02:03 PM

Ditto Kelli! Be proactive with it. Step in and protect Willow first. By removing Willow before she strikes a couple of time the mother should soon see who is really at fault.