stating the obvious - inappropriate behavior?

[mummabare]

Im struggling a bit with this .....Dillon is really into stating the obvious but sometimes its really embaressing, not just for me but for other people.

I went to the bottle shop the other day to get some wine to put with my nannas hamper.....we dont drink, he's never seen anyone drunk so Im REALLY confused as to where he got it from but anyways

He POINTED at this man and started saying "look mum, its an angry man" I said no hun I dont think he's angry.

"Its an angry DRUNK man!' he said it three times pointing and people in the bottle shop were looking and smiling like it was a joke but I was mortified!

I didnt tell him off, I just put his finger down because he was still pointing and just kept trying to hush him.....I could not get out quick enough.

I dont understand, Ive never called anyone drunk, he's never seen anyone drunk WHY the bloody hell did he have to do that in a bottle shop of all places....


He does it quite often and I get a bit tongue tied, I dont really know how to respond.

A couple of other times he has pointed at *ahem* bigger women and asked if there is a baby in there

help....

[lrning2b]

I am sorry, I shouldn't laugh, but I know the shame you feel. My eldest ds was a beauty for it.

Guns... yup guns. Don't know where he got it, but he was obsessed with guns! I took gun toys away from him when he was given them as gifts when people recognised his fascination. But he would find sticks shaped like guns, make leggo guns, he even found a toy shark and turned it upside down and started shooting with it. The fin was the trigger! I was losing it. How could this little child have been exposed to it when I was so careful?! But it does happen somehow.
The worst was when we saw a particularly large man and he asked him how many babies he had in there! I was turning all colours of the rainbow! But the man just laughed.

He is almost 13 now. Fortunately he doesn't shoot people with sharks or leggo anymore.

They do do the darndest things, but they do grow out of it. Thank God!

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[bunty]

Dillon always has been a very perceptive child Kristi, and he is just telling it like it is . I know it can be a tad embarassing. I remember doing the same to a man in a wheel chair - the first I had ever seen. I was amazed, but my mum just shoved my hand down and told me it was rude to point . I never did understand that. I think you handled it as best you could. I sometimes say it hurts peoples feelings to say some things, but my boys just are too honest .

[Eilleen]

I think most people understand that children have no concept of tact. I have told Jade that if she's ever not sure about something someone is doing/wearing, she can usually ask them what it is they're doing/wearing as long as I'm with her and she asks them nicely. This has kinda worked for us and its not as embarrassing as her saying stuff in front of other people.

Not had the "pregnant" thing though happening with larger people.

The funniest one was when a woman thought that the kids were really cute for holding hands while we went grocery shopping that she started talking to them. After answering her questions, Jade turned around and said "Excuse me, have I ever met you before? You talk to me a lot!"

[mummabare]

mwahaha that is cute.

Im just trying to figure out how to reason with not yet three year old....I dont think he understands that people get upset, unless they cry yk.

If there not crying or pulling a sad face he doesnt understand that they are still hurt....urgh....

Im sure it will pass, it will pass.....

[AmyS]

Ah, you did make me laugh only because we have one here too! Yesterday the real estate guy was over signing contracts and Molly pointed to DH and said 'Daddy Have Penis'. I tried so hard not to laugh! Real estate man is a family man so was fine but it can be very embarassing!

[virtualmeg]

Ah yes - I could write a book. Isabella has been doing this for as long as she has been talking (and she started REALLY early). On one level I feel okay about it - telling it like it is can be a bit confronting and definitely seen as 'taboo' in our society, but I know that I find it refreshing when someone is upfront as well. Like the "what happened to your legs?" question to a man in a wheelchair - if it were me I would definitely prefer that to the 'adult' response (i.e. looking away as if they didn't exist because it is difficult to find the right words and facial expression). Same goes for the old "Look Mum, that man's pregnant!" comment - I'm sure the man KNOWS that he has a large pot belly. Definitely a case of the Emperor's new clothes huh!!!

My favourite: "Mum, you know that lady with the moustache...she smells really funny. Do you think she knows?".....well, if she didn't before, she certainly does now...(again, one of those cases where all the adults were most likely thinking it, but only a child would say it out loud!)

She still does it, fortunately with the passing of birthdays she has picked up some subtlety to soften the blow.

[Georgie]

Ah yes, we've had 'that man only has one arm!' (which was met with a smile from the man in question, like Meg said while some people may get offended at that, it's TRUE) and, especially while I was pregnant 'that lady's got a baby in her tummy too!' (to overweight, not pregnant, women).
DP started telling her that if she ate too much candy/ice cream etc she'd get a fat tummy. So then she told my mum 'Granny, you've got a fat tummy! You ate too much ice cream!' (my mum is a little overweight). Luckily my mum isn't easily offended
I just try and redirect by firstly agreeing (otherwise she gets louder) and then distracting - "yes, Emma, oh, look at that puppy over there!"

[~sequoia~]

A funny tale somone my mum knows told her:
In the supermarket cue Child wants a chupachup. Mother says no and an argument ensues. After some tantruming and Mother getting cross but refusing to give in, Child comes out with
I'll tell nanna that you were eating out of Daddy's willie.

True story, I know the woman it happened to.

[mummabare]

mwahahaha! OMG!

Ok I dont feel so bad now ....

phew.